Daughter : A Split Personality....

When you think of a baby girl, your mind would conjur up images of pink satin ribbons, frilly frocks, cute hairstyles, dainty shoes etc...but life is full of surprises and so is a wonderful girl child, a daughter who is definitely meant to be yours forever, yet never yours!

I sometimes curse the culture that prevails and is being carried over from generations together..."Betiyan, hamesha Paraya Dhan hoti hai",which means ; "Daughters are always meant to dwell at their husbands' home after marriage..."

All the years since her childhood, the girl spends every minute, every second, every moment thinking all that is hers, only to realise, one day, that it was never meant to be. The home she lived for so many years will just be a house she will visit now, the friends she had all through her life are now available only through calls and may meet once in a way, the chaat places where she used to hog like crazy will be only thought about as good memories, the roads, the nukads, the parks, every place will just boil down to "past" in her life. All the 25 years of her life was just a trailor. The movie is now in the making. A making of a new life where she starts again from a scratch. She starts from Take 1. She is gonna mould herself from a daughter to a wife, a daughter in law, a mother, a sister in law and many such roles, time and again.

A place where the person she will TRUST the MOST is her Husband. Only because of that one faith, that he will always be by her side, take care of her, she enters the new world like a baby but accomplishes things no less than a Woman. She gathers all the beads of the family and becomes that string which binds everyone , unites everyone, and irrespective of her comfort zone, she ensures everyone around her are comfortable. She ensures that her new parents are happy , she let goes her desires to make everything look as normal as it was before her being a part of the family. She knows the words "Ma" , "Pa" have always been the first words she uttered as a child, when she did not even know what they meant...now she will make an attempt to do the same again, after 25 long years, like a baby, she will say "Ma", "Pa" to people who are so new in her life, to people about whom she has been told, "we are just like your parents"! The difference being she now knows what the words "Ma" and "Pa" mean . Deep down, she knows and only her heart feels, "No one can be like her own "Ma" and "Pa"!!! She just accepts every single relation of her sole connection, her guy, just as easily as anyone could imagine...no questions asked, everything just done, to bring a curve, the best curve , the smiley curve, in her life with all the new aquaintances!

A guy goes through a lot of changes as well. Its a new life for him too, however, the responsibility is not as vast as hers. He does not have to live with her family, he just has to ensure that they are fine. It is not mandatory for him to call her parents "Mom" "Dad"! He does not have to change his lifestyle much, just a tweek is required and life's rocking again!
At the end of it, the girl never marries the Guy alone, she marries his family! This is life, we are Indian Girls, we do change and adapt very easily, we are Women, hence we have all the endurance and the flexibiltiy to bring change in our lives so easily...so easily with few tears rolling down our eyes, we just walk the aisle and just give our hand to that one Guy, the Man of our life....and in one shot, 25 years of the wonderful life, just become memories, just something that was never ours...!!!

This is the second innings of a girls life...and as always, it has to rock....she will ensure it is the best!!! Though, this is the most difficult time of a girls life. The days that a guy counts for his wedding are also the days a girl counts, but, the paths are different. The guy is wiating for the new wonderful life ahead, the guy is looking forward for the lovely future he is gonna have and make.The girl counts her days,with a lot of inhibitions, with mixed feelings, waiting for the new life where she knows she has someone solely for herself...yet living every second, smiling as much as she can. Sometimes, wonders if there could be a remote which could pause the time, so that she could enjoy the moment of her just as the role of a Daughter forever. Alas, she has to move , lay her foot in another direction...another path, for a hand is waiting, a support is waiting eagerly! Ouch!!

Multiple roles, multiple characters played by a single woman in this movie called "Journey of a Girl, a Daughter" ...the ending of which will always and always be "Happy"...thats the Pledge every girl will make coz if it is not "Happy" its not the ending!!!

Smile and be proud to be a woman today!!!